- Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for her return. This is a way of letting her know that you have been thinking about her and are concerned about her needs. Most women are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially her favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
- Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when she arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. She has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
- Be a little gay and a little more interesting for her. Her boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
- Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your wife arrives.
- Gather up schoolbooks, paper, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
- Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for her to unwind by. Your wife will feel she has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for her comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
- Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and she would like them playing the part. Minimise all noise. At the time of her arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
- Be happy to see her.
- Greet her with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please her.
- Listen to her. You may have a dozen important things to tell her, be the moment of her arrival is not the time. Let her talk first—remember, her topics of conversation are more important than yours.
- Make the evening hers. Never complain if she comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand her world of strain and pressure and her very real need to be at home and relax.
- Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your wife can renew herself in body and spirit.
- Don’t greet her with complaints and problems.
- Don’t complain if she’s late home for dinner or even if she stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what she might have gone through that day.
- Make her comfortable. Have her lean back in a comfortable chair or have her lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for her.
- Arrange her pillow and offer to take off her shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
- Don’t ask her questions about her actions or question her judgment or integrity. Remember, she is the master of the house and as such will always exercise her will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question her.
- A good husband always knows his place.
Romantic involvement distracts you and can blind you to what’s really in front of you. And what really is in front of you? You are. You don’t even know yourself yet. You think you know and you want to assert that you do, now that you’re a certain age, but you don’t. What’s in front of you is a whole world of experiences beyond your imagination. Put yourself, and your growth and development, first. There are long-term repercussions to what you’re doing now. Everything you do, every thought you have, every word you say creates a memory that you will hold in your body. It’s imprinted on you and affects you in subtle ways—ways you are not always aware of. With that in mind, be very conscious and selective.
With high hopes for you,
I’d rather have a pretty piece of crystalVideo, India Arie
A five year old boy does not smile for the camera. His daddy holds him on his hip. He is massive human and walking mountain. He says that the boy has a big-head. He always says that he has a big head. His clothes are made out of some synthetic material, slippery like plastic. They are green and purple, matching jacket and pants; it is the 90s. He holds me tightly. The boy’s legs return the pressure. My mom shoots the both of us with a Polaroid camera.
A five year old boy smiles because his daddy holds him. I kiss him before or after the photograph. The photograph’s edge does not betray the moments before or after. The frame does not betray the secrets of thoughts. I smile because my daddy has come to pick me up. His beard is not freshly cut. His cheek is sprinkled with the gravel of yesterday’s five o’clock shadow grown old and particulate. He stands in front of the window and the noon-light glows behind him.
It is 2000 and his face is a shadow.
Our fathers were models for God. If our fathers bailed, what does that tell you about God!?Tyler Durden, Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk
Do you wanna know how I got these scars?Heath Ledger as The Joker in Christopher Nolan’s The Dark Knight
My father was a drinker…and a fiend.
Prayers sent, answers unknown
Black holes are holy